Healing After Heartbreak or Trauma: 3 Powerful Steps to Restore Your Heart
- Dr. Tonya White AKA Coach T
- Jul 18
- 2 min read
This is Coach T, and I help you heal.
If you’ve experienced heartbreak, betrayal, or deep trauma, you might feel like the pain will never leave.
Maybe you’ve asked:
"Will I ever feel whole again?"
"How do I stop replaying the hurt?"
"Can I really trust God (or anyone) after this?"
I’ve been there. The wounds of abandonment, rejection, and grief can make you feel like you’ll always be broken—but that’s a lie. Healing is possible. Not because of your strength, but because of God’s redemptive power.
Here are three faith-fueled steps to help you move from wounded to whole:
1. Name the Pain to Disarm Its Power
"He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds." (Psalm 147:3 KJV)
Many of us bury our pain because it feels safer than facing it. But unspoken hurt grows in the dark. Healing starts when you courageously say:
"I was betrayed."
"I am grieving."
"What happened to me was not okay."
Try This:
Journal the raw truth (no filters).
Pray: "God, show me where I need healing."
Speak it to a safe person or counselor.
When you name the wound, you take back your voice.
2. Replace Lies with God’s Truth
"Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John 8:32 KJV)
Trauma whispers lies:
"You’re unlovable."
"You’ll never recover."
"God abandoned you."
Fight back with Scripture:
"I am chosen." (1 Peter 2:9)
"God is near to the brokenhearted." (Psalm 34:18)
"I will recover and rebuild." (Joel 2:25)
Try This:
Write down the lie, then cross it out and replace it with God’s Word. Speak it daily until your heart believes it.
3. Take Purposeful Steps Forward (Even Small Ones)
"Forgetting those things which are behind… I press toward the mark." (Philippians 3:13-14 KJV)
Healing isn’t passive—it’s a choice to move even when you’re not "fully healed."
Start Here:
Set a boundary (e.g., no contact with toxic people).
Do one thing that brings joy (paint, worship, walk in nature).
Serve someone else (volunteer, encourage a friend).
Action breaks the cycle of paralysis. You don’t have to be "over it" to take the next step.
Final Encouragement:
Understand that healing isn’t linear. Some days will feel like victory; others will feel like setback. But every step forward matters. You are not alone—God is with you, and your story isn’t over.
If this spoke to you:
Comment "healed" below—I’m praying for you.
Share this with someone who needs hope.
Grab my book Warrior Mindset for deeper healing tools.
💜✨
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